Overcoming the baby blues...

While this post makes me feel extremely vulnerable, I know that there is another mom out there needing to read this. I see so many blogs out there that glamorize motherhood, setting unrealistic expectations on ourselves and the journey. Motherhood is definitely fun and beautiful, but honestly, sometimes, motherhood is messy. It’s emotional. It’s tiring. It’s frustrating. It’s overwhelming. Things could be amazing for a while and you feel you have control over everything and then out of nowhere, you just crash one day. Because when you are exhausted, the simplest thing could trigger an emotional breakdown, but at the moment, have no idea why, so you begin to feel stressed, incompetent, guilty, maybe even stupid for losing control and breaking down even though everything was going so well. When this feeling lasts for a couple days, it can be known as a case of the ‘baby blues.’ Yes it’s real. Listen to your body. If you need a break, you take it and nobody is allowed to make you feel like you are blowing things out of proportion because you’re not. You have so much on your plate, and I bet you are seriously kicking ass. From physically/mentally/emotionally recovering from being pregnant to giving birth, back to raising a family and building a home, regaining your identity, keeping up with friends and family, keeping track of doctor follow up appointments, balancing everyone’s needs (if you have multiples), while spending all day, every day keeping little people healthy and happy and you are doing it all on very little sleep…oh and yah also making sure you are squeezing in those showers when you can lol. Damn, that’s alot to handle all at once when you come to think of it. I get it, but not everyone does….If you are going through this, I just want to remind you that you are not alone and alot of moms go through it. You are entitled to your feelings. You can take a moment to just be real and just let it out. Bottling it all in is settling for a fix without the cure. So confide in a loved one, say whatever is on your mind, and just be honest with yourself. Going through this doesn’t mean you don’t love your kids or your life. It doesn’t make you weak, and it certainly doesnt make you a bad mom. Remember, you can do anything but not everything, you are just one person and you are doing the best you can. You will find balance again, you will pick yourself up and continue to be amazing. Big hearts deserve big hugs. You owe yourself the love that you so freely give to others.